I'm not usually one with the sports metaphors, but I was reading a post called "On the value of mythologizing yourself" on the Psychology Today blog and I came across a very interesting idea. In explaining "the best defense is a good offense," Tad Waddington says the following:
When you are on the attack (seeking to win), a failure is nothing but one less victory, but when you are playing defense, a failure is defeat.
I think I might try thinking that way. I wonder if it will change anything.